A woman's family shows support for her eating disorder recovery
Published On: Dec 30, 2020|Categories: Support|

Watching someone you love suffer from an eating disorder can be emotional and exhausting. It’s difficult to know how to help without overstepping boundaries or worsening the situation. Fortunately, there are ways you can help your loved one seek eating disorder treatment and assist in their recovery.

1. Educate yourself on the eating disorder

One of the first steps in supporting someone with an eating disorder is educating yourself about their condition. These disorders are often stigmatized and stereotyped, making it important to learn about the disorder from a more scientific point of view and less a cultural opinion. It will help you understand them and love them through the trials by knowing the facts of their condition and learning to recognize eating disorder myths.

There are many trusted resources out there, such as the National Institute of Mental Health or the National Eating Disorder Association. You can also visit Seeds of Hope’s Education Center to get an overview of the different types of eating disorders and how they are treated.

It’s difficult to empathize with a loved one in need of eating disorder treatment if you don’t fully understand what they are facing. Take the initiative to do some research so that you are better equipped to listen, understand and provide resources to help them overcome the battle they are facing.

2. Engage in conversation

People are often hesitant to talk about eating disorders, but remaining silent can actually add to perceived stigma. Talk to your loved one. Reassure them that you are there for support as they progress through treatment. Ask them how they are doing or how their treatment is going. Ask them what they need from you during recovery.

Some phrases that can demonstrate your support include:

  • “I know this is hard for you to handle;”
  • “I am so sorry you’re dealing with these struggles;”
  • “Thank you for sharing this with me;”
  • “It sounds stressful to be going through this;”
  • “I’m proud of you.”

Phrases like these can help your loved one know they aren’t alone.

In addition, bring up topics on everyday subjects like local sports, hobbies, new movies or weird internet trends so they feel a sense of normalcy and not that everything is about the disorder. People struggling with eating disorders often feel alienated, but you can mitigate this through both empathetic language and normal conversation topics.

3. Continue to involve them in your life

Because eating disorders are very isolating, your loved one may not feel welcomed at events and gatherings. They may even want to withdraw from family and friends. Combat this by asking them to spend time with you; invite them to get-togethers the same as you did before they developed an eating disorder. Doing so may help your loved one feel less isolated as they see that you are making an effort to connect. 

And don’t take offense if they turn down the invitation. Simply knowing their presence is requested can do a lot to help their mental health. 

4. Respect and enforce boundaries

Helping a loved one seek eating disorder treatment can be challenging when you also need to maintain boundaries. As much as you care about the person in your life who is struggling, you are not a professional, and you can only do so much to facilitate their recovery.

If your loved one expects you to provide counsel or treatment, you need to maintain boundaries and explain that that is the duty of a trained treatment professional. Similarly, you need to understand your loved one’s boundaries, and not attempt to extend help beyond what you are reasonably capable of.

It is important to find the balance between encouraging versus pressuring your loved one into eating disorder treatment. They must desire this treatment on their own in order for it to be effective. To encourage them, you might help with researching treatment centers, but your encouragement should stop before turning into pressure to schedule a visit or commit to treatment.

5. Support their meal plan

If you are in the position to prepare and share meals with someone with an eating disorder (i.e. parent, spouse, roommate), be mindful of what they need to eat to support their recovery. Parents should work with their child’s treatment team to develop a meal plan. If you’re a relative, spouse, roommate or friend, ask your loved one about their meal plan and whether they are comfortable with your involvement.

Some people in recovery may prefer to handle all of their meal prep themselves because it’s easier to stick to their meal plan that way. Others may welcome the support. Be sensitive to your loved one’s needs.

6. Plan after-meal activities

Mealtimes are a source of anxiety for those suffering from an eating disorder. To help lessen this anxiety, create healthy distractions. After a meal, propose watching a movie, taking a walk or playing a game together. Activities done together can help your loved one resist the temptation to engage in post-meal compensatory behaviors like excessive exercise or purging, and focus instead on their time with you.

7. Accompany them during treatment

Receiving treatment for an eating disorder can be scary. Having love and support from someone close can help reduce stress, allowing treatment to have its full effect. If appropriate, offer to accompany your loved one during their treatment sessions, especially at the early stages. This may help them feel more comfortable until they are ready to attend treatment on their own.

If your loved one is struggling with an eating disorder, but is not currently in treatment, you may consider helping them find professional treatment. We’re currently accepting new clients, and offers both outpatient and residential treatment options in Pennsylvania.

Schedule an appointment today or call (610) 644-6464 to get more information for your loved one.

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